The power of beliefs and why we should challenge them

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Did you ever challenge your beliefs? Because if you haven’t it might be time to start.

I know it seems a bit counterintuitive to challenge your beliefs, after all it’s what makes us, us right? Well, not exactly.

Our beliefs are nothing but a set of ideas that we’ve inserted in our mind and repated them long enough that our sub-conscious mind took them as universal truths. Which they are far from!

And what I want to adress today is our core beliefs.

When do we form our core beliefs?

When we come to this world, we don’t come here with certain set of beliefs. The only thing that matter then is our survival. And we do not care if our parents are tired and moody, poor or rich, loving or emotionally unavailable…all we care about is that they feed us and nurture us.

We grow and start observing and comprehending the world around us. Then take mental notes of the world around us. Observe how people treat each other, how people treat us and we start responding in the same way. Especially when we are little. Because that’s our world. Our nuclear family. We do not question whether our parents and siblings are right or wrong. They are the authority and their love is one of the most important things for us.

Of course we all know that being an adult, does not mean you have things figured out. I would say quite the opposite. And there are so many adults which transfer their beliefs and patterns to their children without thinking whether those beliefs are beneficial for the healthy development of a child. I mean let’s be honest, being a childless adult is hard, imagine being a parent in addition to that.

How do we form beliefs?

Beliefs are formed based on certain ideas that we repeat and confirm for sufficient period of time that they become part of our subconcious mind. It doesn’t even have to be you who is repeating these ideas, they can come from external world. Such as…family for example.

Now let’s say your parents are living in a narcissistic and co-dependant relationship and this is the pattern you observe throughout your growing-up period. The things your parents say to each other, will start representing love to you. And you will go out into the world with the belief, that love is like that.

Or for example, let’s say your father will constantly repeat to you that you are a difficult child. By the time you are, let’s say 5 years old, this will be so deeply ingrained into your core, that it will become your belief.

And you grow up, go into the world of adults, start forming relationships of your own, start your career, create a family, a business. And your beliefs? They are still the beliefs of that 5  year old child!

Change your beliefs, if they don’t serve you

Read that last sentence again: “They are still beliefs of a 5 year old child!”

And you are a 30, 40, 60-something relatively functional adult. But are you though? Because it seems to me that everything has changed in your life, from your body, voice, friends, place of residence and what not…EXCEPT your core belief! I mean even our computers and other devices need an update from time to time. But your beliefs don’t?

Isn’t this crazy?!

When I recently had this insight on one of my sessions, I was so ecstatic. I mean I regularly work with my clients on their values and beliefs, but looking at them (beliefs) from this point of view changes so much! It gives you so much of a deeper and profound perspective doesn’t it?

Imagine an adult who thinks she/he is not worthy of love. And this is based solely on her/his belief. Her/his surrounding is showing different signs. This person has loving friends and family, is respected and successful at work and yet, she/he is not capable to grasp that it is only her/his belief that is preventing her/him to see that there is love around.

And believe me, there are SO many adults like that. We practically live in a world of adults with beliefs that come from their childhood, no wonder we have so much troubles connecting and having healthy relationships.

So the million dollar question is: Why don’t we adjust our beliefs as we grow?

Because nobody taught us that. That’s why. Because beliefs are something that we don’t challenge. Because beliefs are part of our identity. And ego does not like to have us challenge our identity and consequently our beliefs. Even if they are not serving us well.

I’m not saying it’s easy, but it can be done

After having this insight, I started thinking “Ok, I’ve hit a gold mine here. But how do I find a bridge from understanding to implementing?”

We have all heard that first step to change anything is awareness. What I am interested in now is, what concrete steps do we need to take in order to insert new healthier beliefs that will serve us in being a fully functional, healthy adults.

For some people, just understanding the fact that what they’ve believed so far is actually the same as believing in Santa Claus. (sorry if you just found out now, but truth had to be told) is so relieving that they are ready to move on and build new, healthier beliefs which are aligned to what kind of person they want to be.

For other it may take longer. There can be a lot of resistence built in us, when we decide we want to change. We need to make sure, that we are persitent and clear that change is a must and that it’s going to serve us in the future.

Working with resistance starts by discovering where does it come from. We need to go deeper and ask which part of us is resitant to let go of our old self. Because this process can be perceived as death (of the ego). In order to become the best version of yourself, you need to let go of the old self. And who said that’s a bad thing? Remember, it is us who assign meaning to things.

When you find which part of you is resisting, ask it why? For what purpose is it resisting? Is it fear on the unknown? Is it to protect you? From what?

Often you will actually discover that even the resisting part has always our best interest in mind. So it is extremely important that you connect with the part in you that’s resisting and thank that part for protecting you up until now. You need to aknowledge the effort. Because if that’s your inner child who is resisting, it was just doing best to his/her abilities. And what does a child know? You are an adult now and you have so much more wisdom, knowledge and experiences. Take that burden away from the child and re-assure it that things are going to be just fine if she/he lets go.

Challenge your beliefs just like you challenge fake news

Now this is the fun part. Once you do the deep work, you can focus on daily work. Challenging those core beliefs that are not serving you anymore.

Imagine you are reading an article that is confirming your views and beliefs. Do you go and do additional research if what it’s saying is true? Let’s be honest, most of us don’t. At least not all the time. But because the article is only confirming what we already know, we feel good and even endorse it.

Now think about an article that is either written by an author of the opposite opinion or even fake news. Isn’t it true that many times, you’d go that extra mile to find counterarguments, just so that you can prove that author wrong? Well, isn’t that interesting?

Here’s news for you, you are behaving exactly in the same manner when you are picking up confirmations from the outside world which either confirm or go against your beliefs. And if those beliefs are good, then that’s perfectly fine and no harm in that, but if those beliefs are actually not allowing you to live your full potential, well then we have a problem.

There is this thing called cognitive bias which says that we filter our world based on our beliefs. It’s scientifically proven so I’m not making this up. You literally have blind spots for things that do not support your beliefs. And that’s why you should make extra effort to look for those proactively.

If we go back to the example of feeling of unworthiness, your task now is to look for cues that are going to confirm otherwise. Challenge this belief every single day, until you form a healthy belief of “I deserve to be happy.”, “I deserve to be loved.”, “I am enough.”

If you do this for long enough, I guarantee you that you will become a different person. The person that you want to be. The person who understands the power of thoughts and use it for her/his own advantage and growth.


Not sure if you can do this on your own or where to start? Book a call with me and let’s discuss possibilities how can I support you on your way to better version of yourself. 




Why does having the right mindset matter?

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When we talk about mindset, do we really know what it means? Would you be able to describe it if someone asked? The most common mention we hear is the growth mindset VS. fixed mindset. I am assuming we all have a vague understanding of what those are and what characteristics they have. But are we aware of the power that the right mindset can have on our success?

Ever since I came across the Flow Code® I have been more focused on what state of mind I am in and what kind of mindset I have currently. And the best thing about my awareness is to be able to intentionally set my mindset in a direction I want. I am no longer only reacting to external events, I am the creator of my own reality.

What types of mindsets are there?

In FlowCode® we work with 7 mindsets. Those are:

  1. Gratitude mindset
  2. Playfulness mindset
  3. Awe mindset
  4. Growth mindset
  5. Observer mindset
  6. Transpersonal mindset
  7. Creator mindset

How can I get into a particular mindset?

The great thing about the FlowCode® is that it is created as the link that many other coaching practices are missing. That deep embodiment where you can literally biohack your body and mind.

It is all based on science and created by experts from different fields who worked together to create these tools. Now traditional coaches can expand their influence and help their clients to be even more successful in their pursuit of what ever they are after.

Setting the right mindset is crucial for achieving your goals. And when you focus on for example a growth mindset and practice the intention with triggers on a regular basis, your subconscious will start adopting this new way of thinking and approaching challenges.

It is even scientifically proven that there are numerous benefits if we regularly practice gratitude. And what is gratitude but a mind, set on the frequency of being thankful and grateful for what we have. Gratitude improves your self-esteem, it improves your sleep, physical and mental health and increases feelings of empathy.

Here you can see an example from the FlowHub® portal that I use in my coaching practice, how we hack into those mindsets intentionally:

This trigger is for setting the intention to all 7 mindsets, but we also have videos for a particular one that you want to work on should you choose so.

Why do I need to set my mind to anything?

Our brain is an amazing machine that processes the world around us and creates internal representations of it. What goes on in our conscious mind is only a tip of an iceberg in comparison to what goes on in our subconscious mind.

And the thing is, that our subconscious mind sucks things like a sponge and dictates our behavior. So if we are not careful what we think on our conscious level, we might negatively influence the subconscious. By setting a clear intention to a particular mindset, we increase the chances of our success.

And how the mindset triggers in FlowHub® work is that when you practice them regularly, they will sink in into our subconscious and set your road for success. Remember Pavlov’s dogs? Well, repetition is the mother of skill. So the more you repeat setting your intentions to positive mindsets, the more skillful and prone to success you will be. Science baby! How great is that?

Now that you understand the power of setting intentions for positive mindsets, go on and challenge yourself to do just a short 3 min gratitude meditation for a week and see how you’re going to feel. I dare you!

And if you get really hooked on mindsets, you can grab my promo code for a 10% discount and open a FlowHub® account. 

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How to set your goals, so that you can actually achieve them?

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There is a big misunderstanding among people about what goals are and how to correctly set your goals. A lot of times, that is also the reason why people fail to achieve them.

In order for us to be able to achieve a goal, we need to know:

  • Until when do we want to achieve it?
  • Precise quantity (if we talk about money, it’s not enough to say “I want to be rich”)
  • Is it dependant on you or others?
  • How will you know that you have achieved it?

Where the main misunderstanding comes from, is not knowing the difference between a state and a goal. Many people think that for example confidence or happiness is a goal. But it’s actually a state. And any kind of state can be achieved instantaneously, therefore it is not a goal. Being happy is definitely a consequence of other things, such as achieving your goals, but it is not a goal. And confidence is a result of competence and experience.

How to create a compelling goal

Let’s do an exercise for setting a compelling goal. That way you will see how easy it is and you can do it yourself. It is the exact procedure I do with my clients.

Reflection on the current state

Ask yourself these questions:

  • What is my problem?
  • What is the reason I have this problem?
  • Who’s fault is it?
  • Why haven’t I solved it yet?

Creating a compelling goal

For this part, use your vivid imagination. It really helps if you can actually create a picture in you mind and see it, feel it, hear it with as much details as possible.

  • What do I want?
  • How will I know I’ve got it?
  • What resources, skills do I need to achieve this? What skills do I already have?
  • Have I ever done anything similar or do I know someone who did?
  • What is the next step?

Really dive deep into these questions, because the more clearly you answer them, the more realistic the goal will seem. And easier it will be to set your goals that actually resonate with you.

On my sessions I even do a visualisation with my clients to add as many sensory  elements as possible. I utilize the biohacking portal FlowHub7® where I have access to more than 700 triggers which help my clients with their progress.

If you are interested in FlowHub7®, you can use my personal code for 10% off on your subscription.

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Positive framing

Now, don’t roll your eyes, I am not going to tell you to smile and be all zen (even though that’s not a bad place to be). What I mean by positive framing is that when you are creating your goals, try to find words which exclude negatives. For example if your goal is to be rich, don’t frame it “I don’t want to be poor”.

You might not be aware of this, but your subconscious mind does not understand negatives. If I tell you right now “Don’t think about a sandy beach.” what comes to your mind? A sandy beach.

So make sure that when you are choosing words for your goal, they are stated in the positive. Instead of “I don’t want to be fat anymore.” say “I want to be healthy and fit.” Set your goals in a way that they will seem appealing to you, not as something you will want to run away from.

You are the creator

By that I mean, that your goal needs to be solely up to you. Because if it’s not, we can not guarantee, that external events and circumstances, will not prevent you from achieving it. And the only world, we can really influence is ours.

So when you plan to set your goals, ask yourself this question: Does it depend on anyone else or does it depend on me?

If the answer will be, someone else, try to reframe your goal so that you will claim the ownership. For example, let’s say you are struggling with eating healthy. You will not set your goal “I want my grandma to stop feeding me with her delicious muffins.” but you will frame it, “I want to be able to say no to sweets.

Taking time and writing your goals is really worth the effort. Take it from my own experience. Often times, we think we are clear on what our goals are, but it is only when we actually sit down and start writing them, that we realize how many additional questions we have in order to be completely clear what we want.

And when you have that clarity, all you need to do is create an action plan. Because no matter how big or small your goal is, you need to take a step by step approach in order to achieve it. And remember find your state of flow and go for it! You’ve got this!


If you need additional help with setting your goals and actually achieving them, go to the Book a session page and reach out. I am here for you!