Being a multipotentialite and confidence

People who are called multipotentialites are those with a wide array of interests and skills which can be completely unrelated. They also tend to change careers or hobbies on a frequent basis.

This can often affect their confidence as society is prone to specialization and specialists. Multipotentialites are what we call “jacks of all trades” which makes them excellent connectors and creatives. But more often than not, they struggle to convey their worth and potential to future employers.

Multipotentialite and proud

It is only a couple of years since I discovered that I am a multipotentialite. And boy did I feel relieved. Knowing that I belong and that there is nothing wrong with me was one of the most freeing feelings.

But on the second thought, it makes you think why did I need another human tell me I am worthy. That I am enough. It shouldn’t work like that. We should all already be brought up with the notion that we are enough just as we are.

Well we all know, it doesn’t, unfortunately, work like that. But the good news is, times are changing and so is society. Our consciousness is rising as is our understanding of the self and society as a whole. We are much more open to diversity.

Being a multipotentialite is becoming more and more recognized and there are communities forming and holding space for those who are just discovering their precious gift. And with that, confidence to step into our full power is increasing as well.

Recognize your gift and wear it proudly

Being a multipotentialite and a life coach I have the perfect setup to coach other multipotentialites into their power. Empowering them feels to me like I am taking care of one my own. It’s the most natural thing to do.

And the joy of their recognition of their own potential is immense. Both for them as for me. Because for so long, society has been telling us there is something wrong with us. That we started believing it. Even though we could not understand why.

So if you are a multipotentialite or if you are not sure yet, or if you just found out that you might be one…be proud! Step into your power and offer your gifts to the world without a doubt or shame.

A perfect job for you

There is no one-size-fits-all job for you. Because of the fact that each of us is so diverse and has so many different combinations of skills and competencies. However, there are certain types of jobs one can consider.

As a multipotentialite you know there are going to be times of big changes which will come either every couple of months or could be years. And you should not be afraid of those changes. But if you are your own boss, the adaptation might be easier because you decide where you want to take your business.

So if you’re not already an entrepreneur, consider becoming one. It might be scary at first, but so is looking for a new job with that CV of yours which might look like a Disney wishlist to those who don’t understand us.

One area where you can thrive is in some creative roles where you need to think outside the box. Because what else are we than outside of box thinkers? With so many interests that are often not even related, we can see the connection and pull them together.

Being a connector is our natural role. I don’t know if it happened to you, but I know many different groups of people because every topic of my interest has a community around it. And guess who is the link between those communities. You are! So think of it as an asset.

Reframe how you think of yourself

The most important thing for a multipotentialite is to reframe how we think about ourselves. Instead of seeing our multiple interests as a fault, see it as an asset.

Because that is really the essence of your self-image. And once you change your thinking, you will automatically see opportunities everywhere and be open about your ideas. Share with other people what options you see and perhaps you will make them see what you see.

If you turn your diversity into your biggest asset, people are going to see it as well, because your confidence is going to confirm that you are walking the talk and that it can be done. Because after all, you are an expert in being a multipotentialite with lifelong experience.

 

Become a flow personality

What are 5 signs of stress

5 signs of stress

Stress is one of the hot topics of the 21st Century.  The truth is that it has been around since the early ages and it’s nothing new in itself. However, the stress we experience today is much different from the primal one.

What causes stress?

Reasons for stress can be very different but what they all have in common is that we get an uncomfortable feeling inside of us. That means no matter what is the external cause or trigger, it all ends up in your head and your thinking. And those thoughts can become distorted with time because you are always on high alert. It’s exhausting.

What really causes this feeling inside us are actually elevated levels of a hormone named cortisol. This hormone helps us to deal with stressful situations and is meant to make us more focused and ready to act on the danger. At least that is how it was meant to work.

The difference between escaping a mammoth and dealing with work-related chronic stress nowadays is that we are experiencing it on a regular basis. And that’s definitely not good. Our bodies are constantly in high alert mode and we never get to have the “down-time” we so desperately need.

What are the 5 signs of stress?

  • Restlessness
  • Irritability
  • Feeling overwhelmed and unmotivated
  • Sleeping problems, either too much or not enough sleep
  • Low energy, rapid heartbeat, chest-pain, regular headaches

How to manage my situation?

There is a scientifically proven method that helps us with managing and reducing stress. And it’s called “calming down your mind” a.k.a. meditation, mindfulness, stillness, you name it.

Our prefrontal cortex, the front part of our brain which is located at our forehead, is where analytical logical thinking is happening. And the frequency of thoughts directly contributes to our stress levels.

We normally produce between 6,000 and 50,000 thoughts per day. (Read this article I wrote) And knowing, that you can actually try to reduce that number intentionally and control your thoughts and your reaction to the thoughts, is very empowering information.

When we are not in the flow state, our mind works like a crazy machine but rarely gives a consistent output. When we reduce our thinking frequency, we are more likely to tap into the state of flow and produce outstanding results with ease and without becoming exhausted.

 


If you feel you might be suffering from chronic stress, do not ignore the signs. Act on it and do something about it. If you don’t know what to do, ask someone for help. For milder forms of chronic stress, you may hire a coach like me, but if you feel you’re way past that first level, you might consider a psychotherapist.

How to set your goals, so that you can actually achieve them?

Goals Horvat Maja

There is a big misunderstanding among people about what goals are and how to correctly set your goals. A lot of times, that is also the reason why people fail to achieve them.

In order for us to be able to achieve a goal, we need to know:

  • Until when do we want to achieve it?
  • Precise quantity (if we talk about money, it’s not enough to say “I want to be rich”)
  • Is it dependant on you or others?
  • How will you know that you have achieved it?

Where the main misunderstanding comes from, is not knowing the difference between a state and a goal. Many people think that for example confidence or happiness is a goal. But it’s actually a state. And any kind of state can be achieved instantaneously, therefore it is not a goal. Being happy is definitely a consequence of other things, such as achieving your goals, but it is not a goal. And confidence is a result of competence and experience.

How to create a compelling goal

Let’s do an exercise for setting a compelling goal. That way you will see how easy it is and you can do it yourself. It is the exact procedure I do with my clients.

Reflection on the current state

Ask yourself these questions:

  • What is my problem?
  • What is the reason I have this problem?
  • Who’s fault is it?
  • Why haven’t I solved it yet?

Creating a compelling goal

For this part, use your vivid imagination. It really helps if you can actually create a picture in you mind and see it, feel it, hear it with as much details as possible.

  • What do I want?
  • How will I know I’ve got it?
  • What resources, skills do I need to achieve this? What skills do I already have?
  • Have I ever done anything similar or do I know someone who did?
  • What is the next step?

Really dive deep into these questions, because the more clearly you answer them, the more realistic the goal will seem. And easier it will be to set your goals that actually resonate with you.

On my sessions I even do a visualisation with my clients to add as many sensory  elements as possible. I utilize the biohacking portal FlowHub7® where I have access to more than 700 triggers which help my clients with their progress.

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Positive framing

Now, don’t roll your eyes, I am not going to tell you to smile and be all zen (even though that’s not a bad place to be). What I mean by positive framing is that when you are creating your goals, try to find words which exclude negatives. For example if your goal is to be rich, don’t frame it “I don’t want to be poor”.

You might not be aware of this, but your subconscious mind does not understand negatives. If I tell you right now “Don’t think about a sandy beach.” what comes to your mind? A sandy beach.

So make sure that when you are choosing words for your goal, they are stated in the positive. Instead of “I don’t want to be fat anymore.” say “I want to be healthy and fit.” Set your goals in a way that they will seem appealing to you, not as something you will want to run away from.

You are the creator

By that I mean, that your goal needs to be solely up to you. Because if it’s not, we can not guarantee, that external events and circumstances, will not prevent you from achieving it. And the only world, we can really influence is ours.

So when you plan to set your goals, ask yourself this question: Does it depend on anyone else or does it depend on me?

If the answer will be, someone else, try to reframe your goal so that you will claim the ownership. For example, let’s say you are struggling with eating healthy. You will not set your goal “I want my grandma to stop feeding me with her delicious muffins.” but you will frame it, “I want to be able to say no to sweets.

Taking time and writing your goals is really worth the effort. Take it from my own experience. Often times, we think we are clear on what our goals are, but it is only when we actually sit down and start writing them, that we realize how many additional questions we have in order to be completely clear what we want.

And when you have that clarity, all you need to do is create an action plan. Because no matter how big or small your goal is, you need to take a step by step approach in order to achieve it. And remember find your state of flow and go for it! You’ve got this!

 

If you need additional help with setting your goals and actually achieving them, go to the Book a session page and reach out. I am here for you!

What is transformational coaching

Horvat Maja Transformational coaching

Personal coaching in general is the process of helping people and teams perform at the peak of their abilities. It involves drawing out people’s strenghts, helping them to overcome limiting beliefs in order to achieve their personal best.

What coaching is not, is a form of therapy. Many times clients believe that coach is going to help them with deep emotional and sometimes even clinically diagnosed conditions. These realms are out of the scope of a personal coach and should be adressed by professional doctors and therapists with official degrees in these areas. Personal coaching is seen as a beneficial addition to other forms of healing but should never be a substitution for it.

Transformational coaching

What I mean, when I say that I am a transformational coach, is that I take you on a journey of a self-exploration and transformation. Because at the end of my coaching programmes I want you to come out a new person, a different person that you where when we first met. I want to help you transform into the best version of yourself. The person that you aspire to be.

Many times people are afraid of change. That’s ok, it’s completely human to be afraid of change. But that should not stop us from changing anyway. And that is the main difference between those who thrive and those who stay in the same place. High achievers are not fearless, they just do things despite the fear of unknown. Because that’s what transformation is, going into the unknown.

Transformational coaching aims at achieving the so called state of flow. If you’ve never heard of this term, read my other article on the topic HERE.

The state of flow is the utlimate version of you. It’s when you are performing at your best. And with transformational coaching I want to give you the tools and teach you to be able to get into that desired state whenever you need to. Transformational coaching is not a single-use solution for a single problem. It’s a longterm transformation of an individual who after the coaching programme is able to successfully implement the tools in any area of their life as these newly acquired skills and abilities are theirs for life.

What exactly can I transform and change?

That is up to you. Almost anything. As the tools and techniques are applicable to a wide range of problems, situations and challenges, there is almost no limits in what transformational coaching can do for you.

You may have a certain belief that is preventing you from achieving something. We call this kind of belief a limiting belief. We all have them. The question is if we are aware of them and how to change them so that they no longer limit us.

Another example of what can be changed is a certain type of behaviour that you do in your life that you know is not good for you, but you just don’t know how to stop doing it. Many times this is closely connected with your values and beliefs. So with coaching we can tap into that behaviour and see where the problem really lies.

Have you ever heard of phobias? Perhaps you even have one? Neurolinguistic programming is very successful in dealing with phobias and fears and overcoming them.

Very common thing that I help my clients do is goal setting. Practically it’s part of every coaching package but if a client is interested goal setting skills can be further discussed and learnt so that they can easily use them in other areas of their life. Just imagine how many times you are setting goals in your professional projects, because you understand that without knowing what you actually want, you can not achieve it. It’s the exact same with your personal life. We need to be clear on what our goals are in order to be able to achieve them. But how many people you know, that are actually setting clear goals in their personal lives? I bet not that many. Well, I think that’s one of the biggest mistakes we are doing.

Hopefuly you have seen and understood better how transformational coaching can change your life for the better. There are many materials online which you can search for and learn from. But if you want to get on that “Success train” fast, the best way is to reach out to a coach and sign up for a ride of your life! Noone has ever regret investing into themselves.

What is neurolinguistic programming and why should you care

Horvat Maja Neurolinguistic programming

You might be wondering what is neurolinguistic programming?

It is a study of the mind. It is understanding how our brain works and why we do the things we do, when we do them, even if sometimes we do not understand why. 

Neurolinguistic programming is a set of techniques and practical tools which can help us in improving our life. We can change bad habits and understand our mind on a deeper level. It also helps us understand our values and can help us overcome our phobias and fears. 

There are many practical tools and applications of NLP techniques. The amazing thing is that we can apply them to wide array of challenges and problems that we are facing in our daily life. 

Neurolinguistic programming is based on scientific research and yet it has something mystical to it that we don’t always understand. It is the result of the techniques which access our subconscious mind and create fundamental changes. Those can be then later visible in our behaviour, way of thinking and generally our state of mind.

The tools which we use in the NLP sessions may sometimes seem strange and funny and it is not always necessary to understand how they affect us. The only important thing is that we believe they can. 

What is so amazing with NLP and why so many people utilize it to change and improve their lives is, that we can make instant changes. No matter how many years a person has been struggling with a certain problem, negative behaviour, limiting belief or a phobia, with a proper approach and appropriate NLP technique that problem can go away in a moment. 

Neurolinguistic programming is not a form of therapy

It has to be noted that neurolinguistic coaching is not a substitution for medical treatment or therapy. Those sciences each have their own merits and purposes. NLP is in most cases used as an addition to the above-mentioned practices. As a concrete example, if you are sick with cancer, NLP coach will probably not be able to make cancer go away. Where it can help you is, how you perceive and deal with your illness on a psychological level.  

To conclude this short introduction to Neurolinguistic programming, you are welcome to explore if there is anything that you are currently struggling with within your life. Any challenges that you can’t seem to deal with? Recurring patterns that are present in your life? Or perhaps a limiting belief that is preventing you to excel at something?

The best suggestion is to book an Intro session and check with me if this is an issue we could work on solving. Take your first step towards being the best version of yourself! 

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